DEAR ABBY: My first real adult love was a woman named “Sasha.” We had a whirlwind romance in the mid-’80s. At the time, I thought she was The One. The romance ended when she told me she was married. The last time I saw her was with her husband at a nightclub in the ‘80s.

I moved on and married someone else in 1990. I do, however, think about Sasha sometimes. I don’t remember her married last name, so I can’t locate her. My wife thinks it’s insane that I would want to talk with Sasha.

It has been 40 years since your whirlwind romance with Sasha. What was a whirlwind romance for you may have been a fling for her. She should have told you from the beginning that she was married, but she didn’t,